Just The Way You Are

Sometimes in life it's easy to get caught up in the things we aren't. I love this song because it gives a great reason to get caught up in the things we are.

Plus I can dance AND workout to it. Making it totally worth the $1.29 download.

I don't know if I've posted this or not, but one of my goals  is to become classy and fabulous. I feel these traits transcend physical beauty, making them a) plausible to my current situation and b) possible.

 "Am I a ten? No. Am I a hobbit? No."

(from the TV show Dating in the Dark)

I love this quote. I love it because I think 85% of people fall into this category (10% for the '10s', and 5% for the hobbits;), but we bemoan our fate by spending billions of hours of wasted energy (not to mention dollars) chasing an unrealistic expectation (whether it is to look like that or attract someone who looks like that).

 In reality, though, when I feel good about who I am as a person, I'm not so worried about what is happening on the outside. It's going to change anyway. Fat, thin, old, young, hair color, zits, wrinkles (both the same time!), whatever. I've been way too hard on myself in the past. It is not classy, nor fabulous, to talk down to or about someone else. Especially if this person is oneself. I was reading an article I thought was especially insightful. It's called More than Meets the Eye: How to Be Beautiful without Being Good Looking. I guarantee it was written by a chick, but I digress.. After (yet again) beating myself over what I wasn't, I read these humbling truths that embody the goal I'm longing to achieve. Here they are:

1. Love Yourself
2. Laugh Often
3. Live Life With Gusto
4. Let Grace and Kindness Flow Out of You

The complete article is here:http://advice.eharmony.com/?page=articles/view&AID=2385&cid=comm&aid=91103

If I'm so worried about what the pretty girls are doing (or what I'm not doing), how can I do those things?  Reading this reminds me that I am on the right track. When I am focused on others, when I have faith and trust in the Lord and myself, when I have confidence in who I am, where I am, I feel it.  In the article it talks about taking an inventory of what you have to offer in a relationship. Ultimately, I think that grounds me in the hope that there is more out there..and that I can be a part of it. Not just in love, but life in general. People will treat me the way I treat me. This is not a new concept, but just a reminder. I AM amazing..just the way I am. The best part is that I realize how amazing everyone else becomes because I realize that truth in myself. We truly give and get more when we ourselves are filled.